Structure, framework, rules are good and necessary for society. But most people don’t realize that most of this is optional and you can opt out.
It’s like someone who was born at sea on a sailboat, and spent the first 15 years of her life on the water. Imagine what this person would be like. Imagine the completely different norms, values, rules, and expectations she would have. The current situation you are in determines your perspective and framework for living your life. But it’s not the only possible framework and you have to decide for yourself what life you want to live.
Dare to be different.
Don’t be a sheep.